Margaret S. Mahler was a psychiatrist who developed the “separation–individuation theory of child development.” This came to be viewed as the psychological birth of the infant, which takes place over time as a child differentiates …
“Part of the paradox of change is that the more we try to change, the more we stay the same. What you resist persists! What you reject, you become! This is a fundamental tenet of …
Two of my teachers I’m studying with at The Centre For Healing did a class on trauma-informed parenting. (They talk for about an hour.) The 5 key steps: 1) Understanding trauma, emotional imprints, and the …
We all seek to connect with who we really are, and stay connected. That is a place of pure being, of calm, and of balance. This experience is profoundly regulating for our body, mind, and …
Back in the 1950s, Bloom developed a taxonomy of thinking ability for educators and exam writers. They revised it in 2001. It has 6 levels, with a style of thinking (of using the mind and …
Recently, I listened to a workshop discussing Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Polyvagal Theory. IFS is a psychological model. “Internal Family” is a reference to our system of sub-personalities, what I call the roles we …
During the 1980s, popular psychology promoted the importance of self-esteem. This was both widely promoted and widely mocked as self-absorption. The issue with self-esteem is when it’s measured by our achievements, expectations, and social norms. …
In a recent Embodied Processing class, the instructors described our body as the subconscious mind. While I find this a little imprecise, they went on to explain that this is because our body is an …
Any of you who is a therapist or healer of any type, I can strongly recommend becoming trauma informed. Introductory courses at The Centre for Healing are free, online, and at your own pace. But …
Recently, I attended a talk on trauma from a Jungian perspective. It illustrated one of the big issues with how trauma has been discussed and treated. For one, it was mind-centric. More perhaps than Jung …
Fear is a natural response to a threat to our well-being. Yet most of us very rarely experience a life-threatening event. Instead, the identified ego takes on the self role. Then we equate perceived threats …
I wrote previously about the Greek names for types of love: Eros, Storge, Philia, and Agape. And I’ve written about the distinction between the emotion and the deeper love in life itself. Recently, Ryan Hassan …
