Some old soul friends have asked me to write about “24th century” relationships. But first, some context.
Most of us enter intimate relationships for basic reasons. We seek things like security, sex, children, companionship, and/or social acceptance.
What draws many relationships together is unresolved experiences from prior lives (karma).
Popular songs are full of love and loss stories. But what so many call love is conditional. The relationship is based on attachment, needs, and karma.
Yet those needs are often not conscious, so we can’t ask for them. We just expect the partner to magically know and keep it up. But as things change, they may stop without realizing it.
Our culture is also full of unrealistic expectations of relationships. We can develop insecure Attachment Styles like Ambivalent, Avoidant, or Disordered. We act out hero, perpetrator, and victim narratives.
As relationships are mirrors for our unresolved baggage, they can be triggering. We may blame our partner for triggering us, when it was always our stuff.
Trauma also plays a role. For example, if a child experiences abuse, it is common for them to become abusive as well. This was the energetic pattern they grew up with. If we have unmet needs with our parents, we often seek to meet them through a partner.
You can see how these combinations can become problematic and why many relationships end. Others remain in a relationship because of attachment, even if the relationship becomes abusive, or no longer meets needs.
This may seem a harsh judgment of modern relationships, but when you compare them to what’s possible, they pale in comparison. A relationship between two identified egos vs relationship in enlightenment. Not that an enlightened relationship will be all rainbows. But its roots go much deeper.
A true relationship is not founded on needs but on resonance, with universal, unconditional love arising from an undefended heart.
It is a partnership of equals, supporting each other on life’s journey. It includes honesty, open-hearted communication and mutual decision-making. Each of the partners is sovereign and led by the Divine. They are not bound to their partner, but to their journey.
The relationship may partially meet needs, but this is conscious and not the main purpose of the relationship. Each person in the partnership is largely self-actualized, although certainly we remain human. We all have our growth areas.
Such a relationship is nothing like a traditional Western marriage.
The partners may or may not share a bed, or even a home. It depends on their evolutionary needs. If they’re in a more inner-directed period, they may want to be in their own space. Perhaps they have a primary residence plus a sanctuary to escape to, together or solo.
When such partners unite, they do so on multiple levels. It’s not just physical and emotional intimacy, but energetic, mental, celestial, and spiritual. It is a deep, mutual surrender and merging.
It is the play of boundaries within the boundless.
Imagine orgasms that are purely energetic and limitless. They don’t even require you to be in the same place.
It has been thousands of years since I’ve had such a relationship, so I’m a little rusty myself. But it’s become clear I was born remembering this potential.
This also changes how we are together in community. Not a bunch of individuals striving to meet their needs and vent their stress, but complete expressions of being mutually coming together to amplify skills and feelings.
Clearly, this requires a deeply grounded sense of being and deep healing. Much of modern relationship is actually toxic to this level of intimacy. Unmet needs and karma amplify attachment and separation. The boundless is lost. The heart closes.
But as we rise in our own being and light, we’ll move towards these greater potentials. This is what will bring a golden age into our direct experience. And that will be a blessing indeed.
Davidya
Last Updated on July 26, 2024 by Davidya
What a magic article! Love it!
Incredible!
From my own insight: in higher ages the partner in a relationship is usually someone from the close soul family as the resonance is much more in alignment. In dark ages this changes often to souls that are not in this deep energetic alignment (which then often creates more karma).
Most people today are not yet ready for such a “higher” relationship as this requires a maturity few have yet.
Much love
Michael
Thanks, Michael. Agreed.
If we’re not ready, it could be traumatic as it will surface what is unhealed too rapidly for both. Nature normally avoids this in the current age. But it seems we’re moving towards it, which is why I’ve been asked to write about it.
Love!
I recall a Theosophist — forgot which one: Blavatsky, Besant, Steiner — writing, “Most marriages are karmic, including all first ones.”
Hopefully, we’ve moved past that, or are in the process.
Hi George
Well – I wouldn’t say “all” as there are all sorts of possibilities, but generally, one of our big tasks here is working though our unfinished business. Relationships are a big part of that. (This is a good thing but not always an easy thing.)
Jyotish can be seen as a map of karma. They place a big emphasis on the D9 or navamsha chart, partly as it indicates first marriage. (This is also why they do a bad job of predicting when awakening will happen as that’s not karmic.)
In the current time, for most of us, we have the karma to work through first. Only after that’s clear and we’ve matured can a relationship like this even be possible. Seems that’s why they called it a “24th century” relationship. Seems it will take time to be the norm. But we can certainly work towards it. 50% is better than 20%. 🙂
But I’ll emphasize how boundary-pushing this is. Radical honesty and openness, deeply connected 24/7… Having a bad day means they do too so we want to clean up as much as possible prior. It also means internal communication 24/7 – this is only going to work with someone profoundly compatible. See the comments above.
Yes! Mind you, the words make it sound a lot easier than the actuality of the unknowing striving for something both known and unknown. Thanks for putting this into words!
Thanks, Richard.
But you raise an important point. This isn’t about “unknown striving.” That’s a person trying to gain something it’s not experienced. This is about a very conscious relationship.
This felt very light and magical to read 🙂 Thanks for sharing David
You’re welcome, Jen.
Love your clarity.
🙂
This is to me another important, beautiful and inspiring post, thank you David, even if it will probably take time for almost all of us to find someone that will allow that profound compatibility. And what a fantastic illustration, it says it all. In my natal chart the yotishi found that I would want to fulfill the beloved ones very deepest desires, but she seems to bide her time.
Hi Kjetil
Such a relationship will take a lot of prep work, clearing karma and learning how to be in such a way that we can support it.
There is also the fine art of timing. There may be things in both your lives that have to happen first, and not just for the 2 of you. We’re in this together. And then you have to be ready to follow the prompts so that you connect.
For example, when I was asked to write the article, I didn’t know that it would serve as a catalyst. I’ll speak more about this later.