Some old soul friends have asked me to write about “24th century” relationships. But first, some context. Most of us enter intimate relationships for basic reasons. We seek things like security, sex, children, companionship, and/or …
The title may seem obvious, but we often confuse how we measure things with what they are. The map is not the road. For example, when we learn to “tell time” or ask “what time …
In this video, Ben Tannahill of Drunken Buddha discusses how and why we learn to resist experiencing emotions and how to adjust for that so we can resolve them. Ben is a somatic therapy practitioner …
Regular readers know that I often recommend an effortless meditation. It takes us beyond the mind and into our deeper nature. This is Yoga. It helps the body heal and softens our attachments. We become …
Fundamentally, consciousness structures who we are and everything we experience. The physical world has been built up in layers. There are 7 primary layers (koshas) in this process. And there are 7 primary chakras (energy …
Margaret S. Mahler was a psychiatrist who developed the “separation–individuation theory of child development.” This came to be viewed as the psychological birth of the infant, which takes place over time as a child differentiates …
“Part of the paradox of change is that the more we try to change, the more we stay the same. What you resist persists! What you reject, you become! This is a fundamental tenet of …
Two of my teachers I’m studying with at The Centre For Healing did a class on trauma-informed parenting. (They talk for about an hour.) The 5 key steps: 1) Understanding trauma, emotional imprints, and the …
We all seek to connect with who we really are, and stay connected. That is a place of pure being, of calm, and of balance. This experience is profoundly regulating for our body, mind, and …
Back in the 1950s, Bloom developed a taxonomy of thinking ability for educators and exam writers. They revised it in 2001. It has 6 levels, with a style of thinking (of using the mind and …
Recently, I listened to a workshop discussing Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Polyvagal Theory. IFS is a psychological model. “Internal Family” is a reference to our system of sub-personalities, what I call the roles we …
During the 1980s, popular psychology promoted the importance of self-esteem. This was both widely promoted and widely mocked as self-absorption. The issue with self-esteem is when it’s measured by our achievements, expectations, and social norms. …
