Recently, I joined a research project designed to maximize quality of life during treatment. One component is biofeedback.
The device maker framed various emotions by whether they depleted or renewed us and if this effect was high or low. For example, they rated anger as a high energy-depleting emotion and tranquility as a low energy-renewing emotion.
I found this misleading and a little too much mind. Recall that mind and emotions operate on different levels. Mind can be useful for naming emotions but it cannot process or release them.
For example, anger can indeed soak up a lot of our energy. However, it can also be mild. Anger can renew if it draws us out of depression. Fire burns clarity but also burns inertia.
Similarly, love can be highly renewing but not always. If entangled, it can even become draining. That’s not pure, but you get the idea.
Rather than categorize an emotion as good or bad or analyze it with the mind, I’d suggest:
1) Become more conscious of how you feel. If you feel little, there is work to do.
2) Learn to allow whatever feelings are arising so they can complete. Allow them to be as they are, on their own level.
3) Learn not to invest in arising emotions, like engaging in stories about why or our victimhood. This gets into mind and away from resolution. It can also entrench and amplify our baggage.
This means favouring the uplifting and not pushing against what is arising. It doesn’t mean making a mood that you’re not actually feeling. “Fake it ’til you make it” can be delusional where emotions are concerned. It also breaks the first point.
All of this is much easier post-awakening when we’re no longer identified with the personal me and are no longer taking things personally. However, it’s also much easier to wake up when we clear some of the fog and noise from the mind and emotions.
It can take time to develop these skills. But as we heal and allow, we gradually clear the backlog and increase the light. Quality of life improves, and the uplifting comes to out-weigh the dark in a spontaneous and natural way.