Unhealed emotions and unresolved karma are closely intertwined. We could say unresolved experiences show up as the energy of unhealed emotions.
A common issue with unresolved experiences is repeating circumstances. We leave an angry partner only to find ourselves in a relationship with another.
We change jobs to get away from an abusive boss or toxic work environment only to find ourselves in another.
“Wherever you go, there you are.”
– Buckaroo Banzai
In essence, what is unresolved in us attracts circumstances to make it conscious and heal. It may attract people with complimentary issues, unconsciously drawn to act out with you.
Or the need may draw it out of others. In the latter case, they may not like how they are around you as a result. This can harm relationships.
This is not about the stories we tell ourselves about why. Most of that is a distorted view of what is here. It’s just mind grasping at explanations and looking to blame.
You can’t “figure it out” to solve this. It’s about healing in the field of emotions, energy, and action. That’s not the mind’s territory.
If we listen to the mind less and become more conscious of our emotional dynamics and heal them, it makes all the difference. Notice how you’re responding to circumstances. Is this appropriate and proportional? Do the feelings complete or are they old ones coming up yet again like heartburn?
This process is much easier if we’ve been developing presence aka witnessing awareness through transcending.
There will still be jerks and such around. But as we settle within, they’re not drawn to act out with us the same way. The repeating circumstances fade.
I’ve seen this many times with people. Old, difficult family issues resolved or moved to neutral. Relationship troubles healed. Continual difficulties faded. But it takes courage to face our unresolved past.
This isn’t about perfection. Just moving gradually to a better place so we’re not making as much trouble for ourselves and those around us. The relief is palpable.