Dumping vs Repressing

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While I often write about repressing our emotions, there is another style of dealing with overwhelm. In the past I’ve called it spewing. This is venting it out on others and the environment.ย  Just as repressing doesn’t resolve it, “sharing” it doesn’t help either. What we repress leaks out too, especially through the lower chakras.

Suppression is not a great idea but spewing can be worse. The first is more common in the west but some cultures favour the latter.

For one, spewing on others causes further consequences in obvious and less obvious ways. How others react or poisoning a gathering, for example.

Those consequences also increase because nature grows whatever we feed it. Like chopping off the head of a Hydra, it grows 2 more.

For two, undigested charges spread into the surrounding environment don’t go away as they’ve not been processed yet. They keep their structure, including our energy signature. Various spewing builds up in the environment until nature tries to resolve it through storms, natural disasters, and so forth. Nature processes what we place in her in ways she has available.

Because we’re part of that build-up, that resolution is more likely to have a personal impact.

Energy cannot be destroyed; it can only be transformed. Thus the key to healing is transformation. We transform through experiencing, through conscious experience. We can do this by waiting for the energy to create experiences in our life. Or we can notice our reactivity and seek to resolve that charge internally. The second is smoother and faster and often more complete.

Once resolved, the energy loses its configuration and is freed. It becomes neutral.

Another way to look at transformation is digestion. We have to digest our experiences much like our food. This includes our emotions. If we repress them, they remain undigested and build up as energetic sludge – in us or in the environment (which is also us).

Like trash, it doesn’t go away when we throw it away. It just gets moved somewhere else. It needs to be recycled, transformed.

The transformation process can take place during experiences or later during sleep. That is part of the purpose of sleep and dreams. And it’s why extra rest can be valuable if we’re dealing with a lot.
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If fatigue is ongoing, look at your diet and lifestyle. We can get sludged up by poor food digestion too. Antibiotics can heal but mess up the gut biome. Excess stress builds up, effecting other body systems. Getting enough rest is key too.

Repressed emotions also require energy to keep suppressed. Releasing them brings clarity but also frees up a lot of energy. The art of healing is in making what was unconscious conscious enough to be processed without having to live it out in life events. Just surfacing it as the energy or emotion allows us to digest it through experience. In a short time, it is complete along with its karma.

I’ll be posting more on healing shortly.
Davidya

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27 Responses to Dumping vs Repressing

  1. Jim says:

    Beautiful. Thank you, Davidya.

    Yes, simply by having the Divine gift of being human are we able to know the Divine, but if the ego usurps Divinity and allows us to play god inside or out, in lieu of resolving into grace through surrender and knowledge, the only way to karmically manifest the result is inwardly through disease, or outwardly towards violence.

    Fortunately, Mother has long anticipated such an unfortunate polarity, as the Creation is sustained through transcendence, ongoing change, within the fabric of Being; living our identity as being a changing reality towards Unity, vs. a static existence in isolation.

    This allows humanity to transcend the changes, open up the possibilities, so that rather than being consigned to a life of war or disease, or both, we have a way out. A liberation where any calamity can be absorbed, digested, and quietly, easily transmuted into life sustenance, Prana.

    It is simply a loving challenge by Mother Divine to live our full capability, and bring balance within ourselves and onto this global reality. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. AB says:

    Thanks David.
    Interestingly only yesterday came across this quote:
    “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”
    – Carl Jung

    • Davidya says:

      Right, AB. Of course, we can’t make all of the unconscious conscious all the time. Theres a good reason to, for example, program habits so we can ride a bike or drive a car without thinking about every detail every time.

      But it’s still useful to be conscious of our driving. To have a kind of supervisory role over our unconscious. Then we can weed out out-dated programs as they arise and so forth. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Michael says:

    Great article!

    Not being able to contain our experiences is a sign of immaturity.

    I would add that spewing is just a temporary relief for us as it undloads some but it will grow back because the structures (the energetic structures, belief systems and the original emotinal imprinting etc.) within us it came from are still there.

    • Davidya says:

      Hi Michael

      Well – big experiences can be overwhelming sometimes. But yes, if we’re not resisting or balking at what is arising, we’re much less likely to hit overwhelm. Life doesn’t bring us experiences bigger than we can handle.

      I agree on spewing. It can feel like a relief but it’s like spitting on yourself. There’s a similar issue for unskilled empaths. They take on someones energetic junk but that doesn’t resolve the underlying dynamics so the pot just fills up again.

      Reflecting on this, a lot of “energy healing” has similar value. It may help relieve the symptoms but unless it gets at the source, nothing will really change.

      • Jim says:

        “Reflecting on this, a lot of โ€œenergy healingโ€ has similar value. It may help relieve the symptoms but unless it gets at the source, nothing will really change.”

        True, although there is a value in providing energy, clearly, daily, and with a Dharmic purpose, that will enable the underlying structure, be it a hip joint, a community, or a continent, to learn quickly to be healthy.

        By regularly experiencing the undistorted energy of its true nature, the object can rebuild a memory of same, and go on to sustain a normal existence.

        As you say, this is true energy healing. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I was a member of a men’s group years ago and we regularly did an exercise where the man who needed to “unload” would face one man, sort of grab him by the lapels and then scream and push against him while a number of other men stood behind the man being pushed for physical support. The purpose was to expel any anger and frustration in a ‘safe place’ so that we did not bring this garbage home and unload it onto our wives and children. Does this sound healthy or does it sound more like your explanation of “spewing or sharing”. Thanks for all you do David.

    • Davidya says:

      Hi Ken
      Well – there is value in learning to vent in healthy ways. And that was a step up from unloading on your family. And it may have helped some become more conscious of their feelings. But as Michael pointed out above, unless the underlying drivers are changed, that buildup will return.

      I’ve had somewhat similar experiences in workshops. In one case, they were validating peoples trauma as part of their identity, without offering a resolution. ie: you are your trauma. That was really unhealthy.

      • michael says:

        lol!! …..”you are trauma”…….that is a kind of identification that sounds like much fun! ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • This is a little bit outside the topic but I’ve always wanted to ask you, “What is a good way to really get on the path, or accelerate my path” toward healing?” I’ve identified so much of what “makes me tick”. I do meditate (as effortless as i can not having had the education), and I fool around with EFT but that’s about it. What might you recommend for a “self healing program” in general? (PS, I’m happy to pay you for your advice privately. I’m quite serious about healing and becoming the “bad ass” I always wanted to be)

  5. Carol says:

    Your clarity and practicality are invaluable . Thank you for sharing with us.

  6. Bojan says:

    Hi Davidya
    I am still learning to accept the unconscious and to make it conscious. It is a very slow work for me. I don’t actively search for specific shadow to heal. I am just trying to observe whatever arises. I think if i would push to hard, that would cause psychosis,not reintegration. Slow way is the fastest and the safest way. At least for me.

  7. K says:

    Instead of spewing vs. dumping, journaling helps as well. It is like a contained extraction and brings clarity to the underlying circumstance for the emotional upheavel. One thing I am slightly shocked by is how much emotions are inter-twined with our spirituality and awakening. Before I cottoned on to the spiritual dimension, I would have firmly said that emotions have to do with the mundane, are the purview of psychologists, and have nothing to do with the spiritual side of things. But emotions appear to be impelling our drive toward awakening. They are an integral part of living. And just day-to-day living and awakening can be intertwined. Emotions are telling us what it means to be human. In the past, I would have tried to avoid negative emotions such as regret or hate or anger – but they are just unfolding of our humanity and give us insight into the human condition. All this is likely very obvious to people here – but I had to understand this in bits and pieces over the last few years and am surprised by this.

    • Davidya says:

      Hi K
      Yes, journaling is a great idea. I started journaling more regularly after reading Buckminster Fullers Critical Path. In it, he describes seeing your life as an experiment and documenting the results. ๐Ÿ™‚

      I agree it brings clarity and some perspective. That can help make the dynamics more conscious, aiding in healing. However, I’d see it as a tool rather than a central means of healing because it’s more mental than emotional.

      I’d say we’re a complete being that ties 7 levels of functioning together. Energy makes things happen and we experience energy as emotions.

      Yes, well put. Men are often taught to repress emotions and we learn to ignore them. Then we later have to come back and relearn about them. It’s very common. ‘How do you feel now’ can be an awkward question for a lot of men. We often reply with mental words or words about things. ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. What a beautiful and true to what’s happening in the world article. With the storms ect. Locally this week In 2 days I had 6 clients back to back, they all had repressed old trauma including ancestral, because we carry that too and emotions that needed to be and were released and transformed in an energetic safe way. As we allow ourselves to heal we heal for the universe.

    • Davidya says:

      Yes, Theresa. A lot of purification going on now in people. And important people understand this is what is happening to reduce acting it out.

      Agreed – we’re in this together so any healing we do is healing for the whole.

  9. Guru says:

    Emotions signal that we are missing the target i.e.truth.Aligning thoughts and actions with truth takes time.we have to accept that some junk is hidden inside us.Understanding how gunas work helps.Thanks for your wisdom

    • Davidya says:

      Thanks, Guru. I mostly agree. However on the first sentence, I’d retune that.

      The experience here is that emotions are an energetic response to events. Eckhart Tolle gives the example of seeing someone kick a dog. It’s natural to be angry. But what then happens? Does the anger complete and stop? Or do get caught up in it and taken away? That’s when we’re missing the target.

      Emotions can also arise when unhealed emotions have a chance to come up and be released. It’s good to understand that or we’ll get in the way of release.

      I highlight this point as it’s important to have the right relationship with our emotions. If we see them as a mistake or problem in any way, we’re setting ourselves up for resistance.

      One other point – I agree that aligning thoughts and actions with truth is a high ideal and takes time. But emotions are not so much about truth so trying to align them with the intellect gets into control issues. I see emotions as just something to be allowed and released. They add a richness to life when healed.

      That said, fine feelings ARE related to truth. They function on the same level as the intellect and can be good signals for truth, what some call intuition.

      This is why I differentiate the emotions and feelings. They function on different levels and in different ways.
      ๐Ÿ™‚

      • K says:

        Can you name examples of “fine feelings”. I am not quite sure what they are. Are compassion, joy etc. fine feelings? I can see how compassion can be a feeling but is joy or sorrow or grief a feeling or emotion? What makes a feeling “fine”? If I feel irritated, I am sure that is not a fine feeling!

        • Davidya says:

          Great question, K.
          Yes, compassion, joy, and love are what I call feelings. They arise from deeper levels of our being and are related to flow, the flow of attention and life.

          Emotions are heavier, more reactive, and associated with our person. I want, Mine. Fear, anger, grief, sorrow, depression. But also more basic forms of happiness like satisfaction at a new purchase or promotion.

          Another way we can relate – emotions are a response to something or are arising to complete. Feelings don’t contract or need to be resolved. They’re not reactive. Just flow.

          Feelings fill us up. Emotions are more inclined to take us over.

          The boundaries are a little generalized as they’re often intermixed and flowing.

          I also tend to associate feelings with the heart chakra and emotions with the 2nd in the hips. But that’s very loose. For example, I often experience bliss and compassion with the throat chakra. And, as an upcoming article explores, fear may be associated with any of them.

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