Our response to a major loss can be considerable grief. So much so that unresolved grief often follows us forward into future lifetimes until we can resolve it. We might call this the shadow of our past.
As a repressed feeling of loss, it adds fear of loss to our filters through which we perceive and choose. This adds a resistance to growth experiences, including awakening. This is because the ego often sees awakening as a loss of its control and dominance.
For example, when we graduate from high school, we may celebrate the accomplishment and the beginning of a new chapter in life. However, we may also experience grief at the loss of old friendships and our childhood.
What is grief? Grief is how we adapt to change that is perceived as a loss. It is healthy to grieve to process the change but not to get lost in it.
If we’re willing to face that grief and process our adaptation to change, growth results and we move forward in life. Thus, grief can be a gift and a sign we’re surrendering the old and moving into the new. Life becomes richer and fuller and awakening more accessible.
Remember that for the new to flower, some old must fall away. From a place of balance, disintegration arises. This makes way for transformation, integration, and a new state of balance. Plants grow from the compost of last year.
Consider also the laws of creation. Everything arises in an empty space. Create space and you make room for growth. This is true physically, emotionally, mentally, and in consciousness.
Loss creates open space for the new to arise in. This is the power of loss.