Few of us had a childhood where we felt fully supported and didn’t experience any trauma. Losing a grandparent or pet is common, but the loss or departure of a parent, poverty, abuse, illness, and more can leave lasting impressions.
But it depends on how we respond to what happens. And how we respond to the fallout. And that depends on our resources and past experiences. That’s what sets the impact.
The heavier emotions, like fear, grief, sadness, and shame are the ones we avoid dealing with the most. Plus anger. We store away what we’re unwilling to see in subtle spaces within.
As those spaces tend to be in the physical and emotional bodies, they’re associated with the lower chakras. Subjectively, we may experience them as resembling a dark pit..
Some of us will have a more central garbage dump and some of us will be prone to squirrel away our hard nuts in many smaller spaces.
We can be afraid to face our past. Like a bogey-man under the bed, our pit can seem an unknown, dark horror. And yet much of that trauma is from our childhood. Our fear of it can be greater than the old trauma itself.
For the big stuff, it is helpful to have some presence established so we can just observe and don’t get drawn into the old dramas as the emotions surface. But in time, all we have to do is be willing to see it. Life events will gradually bring the old junk to the surface for an opportunity to heal. And we’ll never face more than we can handle.
With a little practice, we learn to trust the process and go with whatever comes up. And that allows deep healing.
I discovered that a few things were expertly camouflaged. But I could see side effects showing something there. Anxiety is a common flag of resistance, for example. If we’ve healed general anxiety, it can be a flag for something unseen. Being triggered by events is another flag.
Where once we saw our reactivity as a bad thing, we come to see it as a helpful indicator of what is not yet seen. Sitting with those things and healing can have the biggest impact.