Occasionally, someone will mention their fear of silence, of self-annihilation, or of spiritual practices.
Such dread isn’t a quality of silence. Silence is infinite, eternal and deeply peaceful. Alive silence is also blissful.
However, that deep settledness we get in silence gives the body deep rest. That’s an opportunity for healing that can trigger purification.
One type of purification is bringing old, incomplete emotions to the surface like fear. This is actually desirable. If we’re willing to allow the emotion to arise, it will quickly peak and be resolved. It was just waiting for a chance to complete. Then we’ll no longer carry that around, shadowing our experiences.
So it’s so important to understand the basics of healing. If we don’t, we’re likely to resist what arises. Then healing doesn’t happen, and the emotion doesn’t complete – again. The unhealed emotion remains, shadowing experience and waiting for another chance to complete.
This cycling of emotions powers the wheel of karma. And it keeps us away from peace.
One of our biggest fears is that of death.
I’ve found that death itself is fine. It can be quite pleasant and a relief if our body is having troubles. What we actually fear is dying, the transition.
This is because of a few influences:
– fear of the unknown
– dying badly or painfully in a prior life
– losing control
The movement away from faith and into a materialist paradigm has left a gap in our relationship with death. We’re left with an unknown that we naturally fear.
I had a relative resist death for years until they lost enough self-sense to forget their fear. Ironically, they then cross the veil and discover it’s not a void at all. Remembering or a direct experience will resolve this fear.
If we remember and heal a grim experience of dying, that too will fall away. For example, a friend struggled for years with weight issues. Finally she discovered that in a prior life, she’d starved to death on a ship lost at sea. Once she recognized this, and the contraction resolved, the issue dissolved too. (This doesn’t mean you need to remember past lives to heal trauma – it’s just one way.)
The fear of losing control is courtesy of an identified ego. Even though we “lose control” every night when we fall asleep (the ego goes off line when the mind sleeps), the ego maintains a long illusion of being in control of our life. It has been claiming doership after the fact for years. It fears us seeing this and can create distractions when we get close. This can be one challenge of waking up. But also a strong sign we’re not the ego if it’s working to keep us in the dark.
The solution in this case is spiritual practices that soften the grip of the ego by experiencing our deeper nature. Then awakening itself drops us out of that mental cage.
Moving past some of this allows for a more conscious death that becomes a rite of passage. Death can be a completion, like graduating from this grade.
There is nothing to fear.