The spoken word is sounds that represent conceptual symbols that have a somewhat shared meaning. For example, if I speak the word “apple”, you’ll have a good idea of what I’m referring to but not a lot of detail. While misunderstanding is common, the spoken word remains an effective way to communicate between two people who experience themselves as separate.
The written word, like this article, uses letters to symbolize sounds that symbolize meaning. Some languages use word symbols instead of sound symbols, like Chinese. But either is another step removed and thus a little less powerful. In a sense, it’s a 5th level of speech.
Speech can be very powerful – partly by the meaning communicated but even more by what is behind the words, what is driving the words. A famous speech is not just famous for the meaning but for the power of the orator.
For example, when we’re angry, we may lash out with words. The words themselves may be a little nasty but the greater power comes from the anger behind them. If the person listening is not transparent to that energy, is resisting, it can be like whacking or poking them with a certain frequency of stick.
Sometimes people spew with their words, broadcasting their angst to anyone who will receive it. I “enjoyed” that in a restaurant recently.
Thus, words can be weapons to attack. They can also obscure or confuse by manipulating meaning, redirecting, or being vague. People can be saying one thing but sending a different energy signature. “Oh, I’m fine” when you feel panicked, for example.
The mind likes to feel it knows what’s going on so it can feel in control. It fears change even if it’s for the better. And it makes stories to explain events to feel it knows. It then tries to share that story with others, hoping to reinforce it. This has the unfortunate effect of sustaining pain and the mask that obscures it. And yet that familiar pain can be oddly comfortable as it’s a constant.
If you ask the average person how they feel, they often won’t be able to tell you. Not knowing how to let go and resolve feelings, they disconnect instead. As a result, the mind drives many peoples words. Then they’re dry and lifeless. They may just be regurgitating the same story over and over, by rote.
Repressed emotions have a habit of leaking out, so peoples stories gain a charge of emotion, sharing with the story. This doesn’t resolve the charge but can reinforce it.
The combination of stories and charge are very common in modern communication. But we can also use the mind to clarify, to soothe, and to inspire.
If we can go beyond the mind, we get a little less local and personal. We gain access to intuition and fine feelings. Then we can share insight and compassion. Deeper still, we can share bliss. Our words can come from an open heart, sharing qualities of love and openness.
Deeper still, we can speak directly from Self. Then the person is just the vehicle of expression. Source itself can speak through us and stir the same in others. We can share deep flows. Deepest of all would be Divine flows directing the course of expression. In that case, voice would be just one aspect.
Few people are completely clean and it takes practice to break old communication habits. We’ve lived a long time as a separate person.
Remember this is not about trying to control – that leads to suppression. It’s about noticing our dynamics and becoming more conscious. Then we can choose what to favour with the magic of our attention.