Fulfillment

“Integrated is the expression of knowledge, an assembly is significant in unity, united are their minds while full of desires. For you I make use of the integrated expression of knowledge. By virtue of unitedness and by means of that which remains to be united, I perform action to generate wholeness of life.”
– Rig Veda (10.191.3)

Another way of saying wholeness of life? Fulfillment. Fulfillment that is shared. I’ve written here before about success, intention, and fulfilling desires. It’s natural to have desires. Even the enlightened have desires as we remain human. However, as we heal, our desires become much more aligned with life itself rather than being driven by unresolved experiences and unmet needs. As a result, they often simplify, and they can shift from predictability to possibility as we let go of limitations. This helps things move faster and life can get more interesting.

With greater clarity, we also get more precise. And we get more support for fulfilling those desires when we’re aligned.

In some ways, our natural desires come from within. They’re felt, not chosen by the mind.

However, often we’ve developed habits of repression and control rather than allow and flow. Old ways of being still need to be seen through and resolved.

Can we tune into the intention behind desires that come up? Is this an unresolved shadow or a natural desire? Does it feel good, joyful? Or is it something to heal?

The basics are simple, but I’ll talk about this in a few ways to see what speaks to you.

Resonance:
There are a few ways people talk about this:
– Aligning with the energy of our goal
– Matching the frequency of the desired result
– Accepting the reality of it
In other words, we’re aligned with the outcome as if it’s real now. This doesn’t mean fake it, it means feel into it. We’re tuning to the right TV channel.

The world around us is driven by intention and attention. If we bring ours consistently towards our goal and act towards it, results will follow in due course. However, if we doubt, second guess, and always see the goal as in the future, we’re not aligned and results can falter.

Also if we express need and lack about our goal, we’re sabotaging it unintentionally. Neediness creates attachment.

In a sense, it’s more about how we are than what we do. But acting towards it can still help nature align and bring opportunities our way.

Learning:
It’s very useful to learn how to work with attention and intention. What you put your attention on grows. What am I feeding with my attention? Ruminating over the past? Imagining the future? Or acting now towards goals?

Similarly, intentions should be clear and specific. Not the how. But the what and a time range can be useful. We don’t control when, but we may want to request it, without attachment.

Further, educate yourself on your desires. Then you can get more specific. It’s harder for nature to create something vague.

Know your why’s. Why do you want this? This helps get the energy clear and engages the motivation to act.

Action:
As Krishna tells us in the Bhagavad Gita,
“You have control over action alone, never over its fruits.”
– Bhagavad Gita 2.47

In other words, when we align with our goal energetically, we allow it to come as it will. We avoid getting attached to a specific form or result.

This is a fine point here – we want to be specific about the goal, say a condo we like. Yet we want to allow nature to express in the best way for the whole. So we should allow the form and the how of its expression to happen as it will. If we get attached to specifics, this can get in the way of it. Nature can do a better job than we can.

Free will is our choice to act and in what way. Acting is where we can move toward results. But we allow the results to come as they may. The field of action has many influences, including many other people, and nature itself, acting in a vast network. We can’t possibly calculate the perfect pathway. But nature can.

“Unfathomable is the course of action.”
– Bhagavad Gita 4.17

Instead, have an intention, and focus on the action, the steps we can take, moving towards our goal. This is allowing life to unfold as it will. The result may well come in unexpected ways and show up even be better than we planned.

Don’t just think. Start, act, move towards the target.

Alignment:
If we know who we are and why we’re here, and we pay attention to how nature is responding to our actions, we can act in alignment with our nature and thus with nature as a whole. Let nature figure out how. Just take the next best step.

Energy:
Our energy is what motivates us to act. If we’re intending one thing while giving our energy to something else, we won’t see the intended result. For example, if we want to get fit but spend all our time reading about it in the library…

Similarly, we may need to learn energetic hygiene. Those around us are continually broadcasting how they’re doing and some spew their unresolved energy. If we’re at all sensitive, we can pick some of that up. Tidying that up can reduce interference in this arena.

This doesn’t mean we should be paranoid about how others affect us. We’re in this together and we can’t avoid influencing each other. But it can be useful to tidy up, just like we brush our teeth after a meal.

It’s worth noting that Western culture runs on an imbalanced masculine, Yang energy. Many run in a stressed state that is speedy and reactive. This creates a lot of random thoughts and energy. In this context, interference.

Thus, it’s very important to learn self-regulation, so we can more easily come back to calm and collected. This increases our capacity for processing big experiences and reduces our tendency to have unfinished experiences left over. It also reduces our tendency to collect others energy. And it develops the clarity we need for clean intentions.

The ideal is to add the feminine, creative energy people talk about as intuition and flow. In balance with the masculine energy that gives structure and precision, you get results. (We all have both kinds of energy.)

Blocks:
Most of us have unresolved experiences that create resistance, narratives, and expectations that may get in the way of results. For example, we desire a relationship but are energetically reticent due to unresolved energy from prior breakups. This can defeat the goal unless we do the healing work. Or it can attract partners who will behave the same as the last one; that’s the energy we’re in.

It can also cause us to desire things against our best interest, like going after a relationship with someone who can’t commit.

Faith:
While this may seem an odd word choice, this is what it comes down to. If we don’t believe we can accomplish our goal, we’ll be making that true. What we put our attention on grows stronger. Watch where you dwell – on your doubts or on what you can do? Make small steps. This will build trust in the process.

When we don’t see fast results, people can fall into doubt and dismiss the process as nonsense, unintentionally sabotaging their progress.

While this may all seem a little woo-woo, attention and intention are what have created everything in your experience. Everything.

This doesn’t mean we’re to blame for our misfortunes, but those experiences are ways nature is balancing things out or teaching us. Becoming more conscious of our inner landscape may not always be pleasant, but it’s how we clean house.

Patience:
Sometimes, results come quickly. But sometimes, not so much. Nature works for the good of the whole. I’ve had goals suddenly appear unexpectedly years later, after I’d forgotten about it. Happily, forgetting about it avoided me thwarting it. 🙂 Think of it like growing a garden.

Gratitude:
I found culturing gratitude a great way to upgrade my energetic tone. Appreciating what is here now helps invite more. Nature’s supportive laws work better with positive energy too. They live on energy, what are you feeding them?

Enjoyment:
Life (believe it or not) is meant to be enjoyed. Bliss is one way of experiencing pure life. This should be fun. Let go of control and enjoy. Follow your bliss. Joy is a great signal we’re on the right path.

Scarcity:
Many have developed a scarcity mindset. It’s embedded in our culture. There is not enough, and I’m competing with others. This can interfere with the smooth flow of nature, which is abundant. Lynne Twist’s book The Soul of Money is a great read on this topic.

Holding on:
For the new to come in, sometimes something of the old has to fall away. For example, for the new relationship to arrive, there may need to be some letting go of old baggage or a move closer to them. If we resist signals for change, we can get in the way of what we seek. We can also experience increasing difficulty as we’re acting against nature. Learning to regulate (above) ourselves can help.

This relates to attachment. We can even become attached to the predictable, resisting change. Or attached to our goal, holding it ever in the future. Remember, it while trying to avoid getting graspy or needy about it.

Don’t judge yourself for seeing that energy in yourself. It’s almost universal.

Setbacks:
There can be seeming setbacks. But if we just see them as adjustments to the process or as learning, we’ll be fine. I experienced an apparent failure. But when I followed the prompts, grad school unexpectedly landed in my lap. There is a saying: “No failures, only learning.” Sometimes, our scenario has to change for life to move forward.

Comfort:
Caution with going for comfort. The comfortable can be an avoidance of change. There is no movement without change. Instead, follow the feeling, follow the joy. Joy brings deeper comfort.

Guilt:
Similarly, many have been made to feel guilt and shame for having desires or feeling certain ways. Including in many spiritual circles. We may need to heal this so our desires can be freed. Gratitude (above) may be one step. Letting go of comfort may be another.

This may seem like a lot, but many of these are different ways of saying the same thing. I put it different ways for people to connect with. If we learn how to calm and clear resistance, we’ll gradually be opening things up – both spiritually and for the fulfillment of desires. Soon we’ll find much smoother fulfilment. Life becomes a Joy.
Davidya