One of the challenging things about a human life is that some transformations can take us through our most arduous experiences. As a teacher used to say, life’s challenges “polish the stone” and can ultimately be the most beneficial.
For many, the higher heart is closed and heavily defended. We suppress how we feel and avoid healing opportunities. The energy modelling we’ve gotten hasn’t been healthy, so we don’t know how to process emotions. We avoid feeling to avoid feeling bad. Yet ironically, that avoidance keeps us feeling bad because the hard emotions don’t go away unless they’re experienced.
Yet when they’re fully allowed, they can complete, the shadow resolved.
If you don’t think you have emotional baggage, how do you feel right now? Neutral is not a feeling. Are love, joy, and compassion common in your life? Does grief come naturally in the face of change? Do rising emotions express smoothly and resolve? Or do they shadow us for weeks?
Not to worry. It’s very normal to have unresolved past traumas. In fact, simply having a human life means we had unfinished business to deal with. That’s what drives us into a new life.
The trick is in how we are with life. We all have places of rigidity and resistance, places we don’t want to go. As life is here to be fully experienced, those places that are stiff must be softened so release can happen. If they’re quite stiff, life brings us more difficult experiences – difficult because they push against what we’re trying to hold on to or resist. That’s what needs to let go.
If we resist the process and try to hold on, we suffer. The emotions don’t resolve and will come back again.
If we’re clear enough to recognize what is taking place, we can favour letting go. Then further healing and opening can take place. We benefit from these experiences and grow.
Emotions then rise in our experiences and can be seen and completed. Our backlog gradually gets resolved. The heart, mind, and senses can open in ways we haven’t even dreamed of.
We may experience outward changes in this process, but the key changes are inner.
The rich qualities of love, compassion, and happiness can become our companions. This may not come easily. Love doesn’t stick around long if we turn to hate. Compassion is not a friend of judgment, nor is pessimism with happiness.
But if we do the work, our quality of life gradually improves. One day we realize how different the world is because we’ve changed how we’re experiencing it. And that is a joy indeed.