When we’re young, we adapt to fit into our family and society. Often, those around us do not know how to calm themselves and they live with unresolved trauma. Thus, we learn how to contract and suppress rather than process and release.
For example, we often experience anger as unacceptable to our caregivers. As we depend on them, we learn to suppress what is unacceptable to stay safe and cared for.
Frustrations at having to wear clothes, sit still and be quiet in class, “behave,” or being treated unjustly build within.
We learn to stuff our anger away. As we grow into our teen years, it’s very common to feel repressed by our parents and teachers. But all we know how to do is suppress rage. We may act out, rebel, or join a rock band (like me).
Sometimes, we see unhealthy expressions of anger, such as raging and violence. This is an expression of unhealed, repressed anger. And it’s the source of toxic masculinity. Venting by itself doesn’t heal the wound.
We can become afraid of our anger as it feels destructive and like we’ll lose control, but there are safe ways to process it. When we increase our processing capacity, it means we’re able to contain it much better than when we were young. Then, we can contain and release it safely.
We often store this suppression in our emotional and mental bodies, powered by our second and third chakras. As a coping strategy, we hid it all from ourselves.
But the second and third chakras are our feminine and masculine personal power centres. When we plug up our power centres with suppressed energy, our power gets blocked.
And thus, the healing journey often includes recovering our personal power. Restoring that resource empowers us and significantly reduces our fear, stress, and feelings of being overwhelmed. Our energy, vitality, and capacity increase. Assuming no issues with the throat chakra, we’re able to speak our truth. We can express our energy in healthy ways.
Davidya