“The seeker of love escapes the chains of birth and death.”
I’ve come to see that most intimate relationships are driven by needs and karma. Sometimes, people are enjoying the support of having supported others in the past. Or they’re trying to work things out through relationship. Often both and often with souls they have a long history with.
As we clear our backlog and gain inner clarity, the dynamics become more clear. I’ve been surprised how self-inflicted some of our difficulties are. What needs to be resolved is often our own poor response to past experiences. If we’re also unwilling to deal with this baggage, the resistance grows on itself. We end up living in our difficulties rather than in peace and love.
Sometimes, you meet people where there is a strong resonance. You feel good around them (unless they cause you to purify) and there is a kind of sync or intuitive connection. Such people may be useful allies on your journey or may arise to help you see something or see through something.
“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
But there is a deeper kind of relationship you may have sensed but have not found. It’s been much less common in recent, darker centuries. Consciousness has not been high enough to support it. But that is changing.
This is not about meeting needs like security or connection. It’s not about fulfilling desires or resolving our past, although some of that may come along for the ride. This is about flowing love, about being a vehicle for love to express through.
“They say there is a window from one heart to another
How can there be a window where no wall remains?”
That doesn’t mean this love or that love but love rising within and flowing through all the layers that are open.
As persons are inherently me-oriented, this would be unlikely to arise in a relationship between 2 persons. A usual prerequisite is that both be awake. We could say it’s a relationship between everything and itself. It’s not personal and yet it’s not impersonal either; it’s cosmically personal. The cosmic focused to a point that reflects it back. Words don’t do it justice.
This is infinite, eternal love to the capacity that we can embody it.
“Love is from the infinite, and will remain until eternity.”
Such a connection is profoundly intimate as there are no appearances to maintain nor constraints. It’s devotion but not to an other. Yet there’s a superficial distinction that allows the flow to take place. Flow requires a focal point*.
Interestingly, such a connection doesn’t require physical proximity. Because the connection is deep, space is just the container of expression and not a boundary. It is larger than a thousand universes. It is the source of ourselves and all we experience.
And yet it is right here, now, in this moment. It is only for us to discover what is already here.
*we may experience flow without a focus, but this is observing flow. When we’re in (of) flow, we discover it has intention and purpose and thus a direction or focus.