Moving
Moving home or work can have interesting effects. When I was younger and moved more often, I noticed things seemed to get better after a move. Some people study best places for a person using …
Category: Psychology
Entitlement
There is a kind of disease that permeates western culture. With our up until recent stretch of prosperity, the disease became almost unchecked. That disease is entitlement. A sense of deserving, simply because of who …
Being Seen
One of the natural drives of a person is to be seen. ‘Look at me!’ This is more obvious in extroverted personalities, but even for the introvert, there is a push to be seen, to …
Money Troubles
A friend of mine is struggling with debt and asked for some advice. This was the response, edited for the medium. First, it’s useful to understand a few things. For one, the nature of money. …
Spring Cleaning
As I touched on in The End of the Person, it’s fascinating where we store our holdings. The boundaries between ‘inside’ and ‘outside’ are an artificial creation of the identity. When that passes, we can …
Getting Clear
Recently, in a correspondence with a friend of mine, they expressed their struggle with emotion. I shared some ideas they found useful. I drafted them into this post and expanded on it. It’s not that …
Desire and Control
Desire is a natural quality of being human. It is our drive to act and give attention, our most precious resource. However, desire can come to us in a number of ways. There are basic …
Oneness Perceived
Dr. Jeff Eisen, the author of Oneness Perceived, A Window Into Enlightenment, recently said the following in an interview: “Traditionally philosophers have espoused philosophies that basically consist of words. But I feel that we are …
The Story of Christmas
No, not that story. Your story. What is your story of Christmas? Is it Merry and Ho Ho Ho? Or is there something of an edge there? Or is it a mask over pain? Something …
Appearance and Attraction
One of the classic examples of illusion is found in attraction and appearnce. While many women spend a great deal of time on their appearance, many men do not. Women often assume they are judged …
Choice by Attention
“Each of us literally chooses by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit.” — William James in The Principles of Psychology
The Source of Confidence
Shilpan wrote a popular article about building self-confidence, using Forrest Gump as a model. In a discussion in comments, Jean Browman drew out a point I had not considered before. From whence arises confidence? She …