Letting Go Deeper

Getting regulated is the first step before we attempt to heal anything. When we’re calm, we can create the space for releases without getting entangled by them.

When we’re exploring energy healing, a key flag of an unfinished experience is resistance and/or reactivity. If we find a place of resistance, we can relax into it. Then the resistance lets go, and the experience can complete in a wave of energy or emotion. It’s done. 

Similarly, when we notice ourselves over-reacting or dwelling on something, instead of avoiding it, we can turn towards it and feel it fully. Allow it to be as it is. Then it too can complete in a passing wave of emotion.

As we heal, it becomes possible to give names to these emotions. We can discover origins, like a childhood self, or a protector, or any other trauma-related habit. If its early childhood, it can be pre-verbal and pre-cognitive. Then it’s somatic, how it feels in the body. It may not have a name, but it will have an origin. 

Sometimes we find experiences that feel more stuck. These may not yet be “ripe” or ready to be seen. We don’t want to try to push it.

However, there can also be resistance to the resistance, a kind of meta-level of resistance. For example, we can have an automatic resistance to certain emotions like anger or sadness. And then there’s the unresolved emotion itself. In such a case, we can let go of the need for the sensations to be a certain way, a deeper allowing of things to be as they are. Then you can feel and resolve the emotions themselves. Two steps.

Even further, there can be a somatic sense of being unsafe. An instinctive no.
We may need to have a little “conversation” with what feels unsafe. Allow the body to talk. Don’t let the mind dismiss it. Don’t assume it’s something to fix or heal. It may be a signal, not an unresolved experience. We may need to leave the place we’re in to move away from the trigger.

Commonly, we’re dominated by the mind and dismiss and ignore the body, so the body doesn’t trust the mind. In such a case, we’ll want to cultivate a new relationship with the body. We’ll become conscious of when things feel unsafe. And we’ll be able to reassure the body when circumstances have been resolved.

So often, the body gets the threat signal but not the resolution.

We can notice how the mind relates to the body. Is it supportive? Or critical? Dismissive? Disappointed? Does the mind (ego) feel it is better than the body? Does it just override the bodys’ signals? Or does it want to know how the body feels?

If you don’t know, then it’s likely the mind has dismissed the body. This is quite common in the West, usually as a coping strategy, to avoid how we feel.

Inversely, how does your body relate to your mind? Does it feel safe? Trusted? Judged? Is your body afraid of your mind? Again, this is quite common.

Many of us need to restore a broken relationship between the mind and body so that we can meet the body’s needs and embody unfolding enlightenment.

Just be careful of any kind of control or wanting things to differ from how they are. That’s just another kind of resistance, a need for things to be a certain or different way.

In time, body and mind can develop a healthy relationship, and our being can abide in both in calm joy.
Davidya