In the 9th Anuvaaka of the Taittiriiya Upanishad, truthfulness and self-control have a priority, behind recitation of the Veda. In study, they consider recitation in Sanskrit the most important as it entrains you to the flows of nature and knowing.
Truthfulness can help us move closer to what is and away from our stories that support an ego narrative. It’s also one of the legs of dharma.
Self-control in this context isn’t resistance, it’s being conscious of our behaviour and not entertaining shadow impulses. Of course, this depends on our clarity. Often we’re noticing after the fact when we’ve strayed.
The 11th Anuvaaka goes into more detail and describes the parting instructions to students. In dharma, marriage and family life come after study. This is the instruction when full-time study completes.
“Do not neglect the truth.
“Those actions that are without fault, do those and no others.
“You should give with respect.
– Translation from The Upanishads, A New Translation by Vernon Katz and Thomas Egenes
Of course, such precepts are from another culture and time. They’re not well-supported now, even in their home country. For example, it’s not as easy to see others as divine if they’re not also following such precepts. Happily, this does get much easier when we come to see everything is immersed in the Divine. In the meantime, there are basic principles here we can favour. Not to control and manipulate, just to favour when we have a choice.