What is the secret to happiness?
The secret to happiness is to break down the barriers to it.
The first step is to become more conscious of how we actually feel.
Then we can learn to stop fighting negative feelings. We’ll find this shifts in layers. We discover deeply reinforced habitual reactions, even patterns we associate with our sense of self. Our unhappiness can be part of our self-story that we protect.
We may feel we shouldn’t be angry if we’re a meditator. Or that we mustn’t be sad. But such subtle stories create resistance to our experience and keep those emotions around, unresolved.
It’s better to see emotions as messengers, as signals telling you how you are energetically. Like sensations in the body, they tell us where we’re at. If we don’t allow them some space, they fester. That leads not only to emotional challenges, but health issues too. Plus the energy that drives the monkey mind.
Allowing ourselves to feel the “non-positive” emotions is the surprising way into bliss. By learning to recognize and experience what is arising, it completes. As we allow what is arising in life, we can unpack our burdens and clear shadows. The veils and coverings over happiness fall away and we’re free to experience life as it is.
Your mind may not want to feel emotions as it can’t control them except through distraction. But your heart wants this. Feelings are your heart’s way of communicating.
Because this resistance is also resistance to completing old unresolved experiences, it is the essence of resolving karma too.
Learn how to feel OK with even your darkest emotions. Not to enhance or support them, just to learn to experience and complete. Then those old shadows can pass.
This will not always be easy. Some of it is big. We carefully defend some of it, unconsciously. Some of it is part of our sense of self. “Y did this to me because I am X.”
But as we learn to be OK, even our deepest shadows dissolve, revealing the inner light of our being and the happiness that is our essential nature.
Within every emotion, we find joy or peace or love. And then we find the same within everything. We just have to surrender the resistance and be with life as it is. In time, we heal and find joy – even amidst difficulty.