There is a simple principle to understand about our life experiences. If there is an experience showing up in our life, it’s there for our benefit. The nasty customer, the meeting going sideways, the crazy drivers; all of it is there to show us something about ourselves or to resolve something in our history. Moving us forward or clearing the past.
Yet all too often, we artfully deflect these experiences with narratives that put blame outside of ourselves or on some aspect of ourselves we diminish. We resist and call such experiences bad. This response reinforces and perpetuates what we don’t want.
But if we recognize these are arising to be experienced and resolved, and learn to let go of our inner contractions, we end the drivers that are causing these experiences in our life.
The Yoga Sutra tells us:
Yoga Sutra 2:16 – heyam duhkham anaagatam
Avert the danger which has not yet come.
The next verse tells us the cause of danger is identification with seer and seen, being caught in the sense of me and mine. That draws us into trouble.
If we are radiating peace, it will diffuse anger, fear, and discord around us. But I don’t mean making a mood of peace. That’s just wearing a another mask.
Just as we can culture gratitude, we can also culture peace. This means favouring it rather than pretending. We favour peace because we often have decades of practice doing the opposite. It takes time to change habits even if peace is alive deep within.
If peace is not alive within, then we have clearing to do to uncover it. You can’t favour peace if it’s not in your experience. Pure, silent, restful being is there within all of us under the veils of our unresolved past. You may find things you resist, things you grasp at, things you feed you know are not beneficial, or simply things you need to see.
If you find events push your buttons in any of these ways, change your tactic. Rather than avoiding or grasping at such events, look within at what is causing your reactivity. A “button” points to something unresolved. That is the seed of the event.
This can be well-masked so we may have to peel back multiple layers that obscure our contractions. But as we get closer and clear old drivers, we free up energy and gain peace of mind.
Notice the little stories we tell ourselves or share with others. In trying to point away, they can point back to what we’re blaming and avoiding.
Over time and process, events will tend to reduce and the dynamics will become much clearer and more distinct. Then, if an event arises in our experience, we know there is a gift in it for us.
This is similar to the modern ideas of Ho’oponopono.
After clear awakening, we may find ourselves clearing community trauma. Because of our history, it will often be things we can relate to because we’ve already experienced and cleared them in ourselves. But now we’re able to clear them energetically, resolving them before they show up in experiences. Then we’re averting the danger directly.