The mind very much likes to feel it’s safe and in control. This is driven by our disconnection from source. Feeling separate and alone, we seek safety in a story. Or rather a host of inter-related stories.
As life circumstances occur, the mind regurgitates what it considers a related story from memory. We respond, often before the experience is even conscious. This is built on a survival mechanism to make sure we respond more quickly to hazards than the conscious mind can process. Then mind tries to confirm the story, amends it or writes an enhancement.
For example, say we’ve had a traumatic experience with a violent man. The mind will write a story to explain the remembered hazard. And it will revive the story if reminded of it to avoid the hazard in the future. But the story will generalize, like saying men with beards are dangerous or even all men can be dangerous at night. And so forth.
Family dynamics can quite illustrate this. Often, we respond automatically to other family members with long-held habits. No one is heard – they’re all just reacted to. Many do the same with their own children as well. It can be hard to develop an adult relationship with family members.
All these stories running mean we’re rarely aware of what is going on right now. We’re in the mind, thinking about what might happen or reviewing what did happen or reacting to what recently happened. But not here, now.
If you’re wondering what story is dominating, just listen to what you’re telling others. Is it the same story, over and over? Does it cast you as the victim or hero? Are we choosing friends based on who will accept and reinforce our stories? Byron Katie would ask: is our story true? Really?
As we step back more into consciousness itself, we begin to detach ourselves from the stories. When we simply see them, choice can arise. We see circumstances triggering the stories and we can then choose to act or not. This helps reduce our reactivity.
As the stories become more conscious, we may be surprised how primitive and even illogical some may be. But keep in mind, many core stories began in early childhood and have been built on for years into the epic story of a me.
Once we stop believing the stories and are resolving the energy behind them, they lose power and fade. But as they’ve been built in layers for many years, this process can take time. We mostly discover what’s been buried through life experiences bringing them to light.
This process is a consciousness approach. It can be very useful to supplement this with some targeted energy healing too.
With Self Realization (Cosmic Consciousness), we can enter a honeymoon followed by a period where the new open space inclines many old stories to come up to be seen and revolved. Because we’re now more detached, this process is often much easier. This also allows us to tackle much deeper traumas without being recaught be them.
As our attention has become more powerful, it’s important to learn new ways of being. As Lucia puts it, it becomes our duty to enjoy. Discrimination is useful but doubt is no longer your friend.
You’ll find that the layers of the “onion” peel off revealing further subtle holding. It shifts from story into energy or emotion. And then into simple resistance. And that has subtler and subtler values to be discovered.
I was recently reminded of some of the struggles I’d had with this process back in the day. It seemed endless and unforgiving. But as the dramas wound down, so did the noise. The process continues to this day but now is just part of the flow of life, purifying and healing while it opens and grows. Life gets better and better.
Some parts of the story do continue. Rather than being stories of control and resistance, these are the parts that support our dharma, that which sustains our life allowing it to unfold.
It is the hero’s journey into the unknown vastness of being and beyond. But it is an adventure of riches beyond imagination. And a quality of life we may not have thought possible. It is our natural potential.