A reader sent me this excellent talk by Brené Brown on The Anatomy of Trust:
A few notes:
Trust is built in small moments – do you avert and betray or connect and build trust.
What is trust? Choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else.
Distrust – what I have shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you.
Acronym “BRAVING” – when we trust we are braving connection with someone.
Atman or the Cosmic Self has a three-fold nature. It has a subject or observer aspect, the process of observation, and the object or observed aspect. I illustrated this here.
As consciousness is aware of itself both globally and at every point, it can observe its own dynamics and experience this directly.
“Locally” or personally, we experience this as the ego or I-sense, the intellect, and the mind.
Samkhya describes how Buddhi (intellect) recognizes self as different from other, creating Ahamkara, the I-sense or ego. This arises in early childhood as a baby distinguishes itself from mother.
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There can be said to be two trees of life.
The first tree is the one most of us know better. It is rooted in the “world of men.” The roots originate in action, born of attachment to its fruits. We act to achieve a desired result. Seems natural, right?
Yet by grasping at what we want and avoiding pain, we impede the smooth flow of life. We build a web of unresolved energy that ties us to our past and others around us. It gets much harder to fulfill desires and action often leads to undesired consequences. … Continue Reading…
In the mists of ancient time, group consciousness was in a downward cycle and took a somewhat distinct fall. There was a great deal of confusion and discord as cultures collapsed. Some entities took control over many people energetically and physically. It was a short, messy time but until recently, consciousness was not high enough to clear the residual effects of that time. It has cast a shadow for centuries.
Current world events are partly about bringing those old power and control dynamics to the surface to be seen and released.
As always, the desire for power and … Continue Reading…
Once we move past our “own” junk post-awakening, it becomes apparent that there is still lots of collective junk to clean up. As this cleaning or healing will improve quality of life for most everyone, it’s worthwhile.
However, I’ve observed that what one person cleans up can differ from someone else. We don’t clean up everything. Instead, we process and resolve those things we have an affinity for.
Say we’ve experienced and healed trauma associated with rejection. Even though healed, we now have an affinity or familiarity with that style of energy. Once we’re well awake, we can … Continue Reading…
Dharma is that which sustains. This gives us a stable platform for life and growth. Life itself is about balance for similar reasons.
When something goes out of balance, the system will seek to restore it. If what is off doesn’t respond, then other things compensate. For example, if we have an injured foot, we’ll lean more on the other one. This will sometimes overtax the healthy side.
We also talk about compensatory behavior. We may have habitual psychological responses to some kinds of events. For example, a partner needing downtime may trigger our fear of abandonment. That … Continue Reading…
There’s a take on purification I realized I’d not covered. Unlike some psychological approaches, we don’t have to dig up every trauma and challenge we’ve ever faced to clear it’s impact. That would make it essentially endless.
The vast majority of our contractions can be handled by samadhi. By stepping deep into pure being, we get a rest deeper than sleep and gradually ground ourselves in presence. With the increased rest and peace, our layers can shed baggage as a matter of course.
We’ll also probably have more robust contractions that have been deeply reinforced or … Continue Reading…
The spiritual path is not for the faint of heart. It’s all about becoming more conscious. But this means everything – not just the Divine and the heavens but the suffering and darkness too. And everything in between.
Anywhere we’re not willing to look is a place we’re not accepting and is not conscious. It is thus a place of shadow.
For most people, the inside of their body is unseen, only occasionally felt, and largely unknown. And what of their emotional and mental bodies? Within that we’ll each have places of deeper shadow. It takes time … Continue Reading…
In the process of becoming more conscious, we’ll discover deep, long-held delusions. Some of them will be carefully defended and stashed in unconscious corners. Yet they’ll continue to influence our choices and behaviour.
For example, we may seek enlightenment as an escape from our problems. Or think I, personally, will get enlightened. Or the right partner will meet all of our unmet needs. Or money is a solution. Or money is evil. Or I’m a sinner. Or I can be perfect. The list goes on and on.
The key feature of a delusion is that it’s something we hold against what … Continue Reading…
Our Natural Laws are those that are emphasized and expressing here in our life. Like our DNA, we’re all built of the same laws but each of us have a small percent that vary in emphasis, leading to differences in physiology, ability, personality, and life events.
Making our gifts, strengths, and weakness more conscious makes our life easier, even if we are not always happy with what we find. Tools like Jyotish can help us see dynamics that are less conscious.
Liberation frees us from identification and attachment to these dynamics but does not end their influence. We still have … Continue Reading…
Over the years, I’ve explored my family tree and done DNA testing. It’s fascinating to see how a family evolves and what changes things.
For example, my father was born in New Zealand and spent his early years on a cattle ranch. His father developed a health issue, and they chose to migrate back to western Canada where he had met his Australian wife.
Had they not made that choice, my parents would not have met and this form would not have been created. In fact, there are innumerable choices innumerable people made over the years … Continue Reading…
On a recent retreat, an important point came up about awakening. But first, a little background.
I’ve written before about the 3 parts of awakening – the actual shift, the experiences that may come with it, and the purification that may also take place. It’s not unusual for there to be a big release with the shift.
To help avoid confusion for the mind, it’s important to understand that the experiences of opening and purification are not it. They are effects and they are experiences. Awakening itself is not an experience. It is a shift … Continue Reading…