Two Kinds of Resistance

As Yoga describes, there are two basic kinds of resistance to what is.

The first is Grasping. This is trying to hold on to what passes through our lives. We try to hold on to passing experiences, perceptions, possessions (good word), memories, and so forth. We try to keep things we like from changing. When this fails, we experience loss and grief.

Similarly, desires for future possessions can be a grasping at wants, often with an expectation of satisfaction that never lasts. (cue Rolling Stones)

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Trust vs Power

In considering the Trust article, it’s useful to distinguish between trust and power.

Brené defined trust as: “Choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else.” More commonly it is defined as “Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.”

Trust does Not mean giving away our power. Being vulnerable to sharing is not the same as giving our power to someone. Just because someone has earned our trust does not mean we should give them our power. If power is being usurped, there is boundary, accountability, and integrity issues … Continue Reading…

Emotional Pain

Most of us carry unresolved emotional pain, even if we’ve had fairly uneventful lives. Being born into our family’s unresolved pain will do the job. A child is designed to be wide-open and mirror their environment so they can be successful in it. We learn to walk and talk, but also pick up behaviors and energetic patterns. Soon after, our own past unresolved baggage comes on-line too.

As small children, the pain of adults and our own past can seem like an incomprehensible monster. We don’t have the skills or awareness to process it yet. Although unspoken, it roars away … Continue Reading…

On Trust

A reader sent me this excellent talk by Brené Brown on The Anatomy of Trust:

On YouTube

A few notes:
Trust is built in small moments – do you avert and betray or connect and build trust.
What is trust? Choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else.
Distrust – what I have shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you.
Acronym “BRAVING” – when we trust we are braving connection with someone.
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Healing Affinity

Once we move past our “own” junk post-awakening, it becomes apparent that there is still lots of collective junk to clean up. As this cleaning or healing will improve quality of life for most everyone, it’s worthwhile.

However, I’ve observed that what one person cleans up can differ from someone else. We don’t clean up everything. Instead, we process and resolve those things we have an affinity for.

Say we’ve experienced and healed trauma associated with rejection. Even though healed, we now have an affinity or familiarity with that style of energy. Once we’re well awake, we can … Continue Reading…

Healing Compensation

Dharma is that which sustains. This gives us a stable platform for life and growth. Life itself is about balance for similar reasons.

When something goes out of balance, the system will seek to restore it. If what is off doesn’t respond, then other things compensate. For example, if we have an injured foot, we’ll lean more on the other one. This will sometimes overtax the healthy side.

We also talk about compensatory behavior. We may have habitual psychological responses to some kinds of events. For example, a partner needing downtime may trigger our fear of abandonment. That … Continue Reading…

Digesting Contraction

There’s a take on purification I realized I’d not covered. Unlike some psychological approaches, we don’t have to dig up every trauma and challenge we’ve ever faced to clear it’s impact. That would make it essentially endless.

The vast majority of our contractions can be handled by samadhi. By stepping deep into pure being, we get a rest deeper than sleep and gradually ground ourselves in presence. With the increased rest and peace, our layers can shed baggage as a matter of course.

We’ll also probably have more robust contractions that have been deeply reinforced or … Continue Reading…

Flavours of Bliss

It may seem ridiculous to say this but everything we experience and the movement and energy behind them can be experienced as bliss. By that I mean deep, resonant happiness. Life is like an ice cream store with a nearly infinite choice of flavours. There is nowhere to go to get there. It is right here in who is experiencing.

If you’ve seen Gangaji give satsang, for example, she will guide a person suffering under their experience. Behind everything is always stillness or bliss. It’s deeply nourishing to know this directly, however we come to that experience. … Continue Reading…

For the Brave

The spiritual path is not for the faint of heart. It’s all about becoming more conscious. But this means everything – not just the Divine and the heavens but the suffering and darkness too. And everything in between.

Anywhere we’re not willing to look is a place we’re not accepting and is not conscious. It is thus a place of shadow.

For most people, the inside of their body is unseen, only occasionally felt, and largely unknown. And what of their emotional and mental bodies? Within that we’ll each have places of deeper shadow. It takes time … Continue Reading…

Our Natural Laws

Our Natural Laws are those that are emphasized and expressing here in our life. Like our DNA, we’re all built of the same laws but each of us have a small percent that vary in emphasis, leading to differences in physiology, ability, personality, and life events.

Making our gifts, strengths, and weakness more conscious makes our life easier, even if we are not always happy with what we find. Tools like Jyotish can help us see dynamics that are less conscious.

Liberation frees us from identification and attachment to these dynamics but does not end their influence. We still have … Continue Reading…

Managing Anxiety

We live in a world where the dials are gradually being turned up. This brings us great opportunities for growth but also the stress of almost constant change. Globalization has made our world smaller but has exposed us to the breadth of human suffering.

As a result, hypertension, PTSD, and anxiety disorders have become normal. The most common illnesses are either directly caused by stress or deeply influenced by it.

If we want to enjoy life and grow in healthy ways, we need to learn how to be in the world the way it is now. Aversion and escapism are … Continue Reading…

Passing Illness

Last week, I came down with a cold and was reflecting on the experience. The body was sick, the mind foggy, but peace and happiness where undisturbed.

This reminded me of a verse in the Bhagavad Gita

2v23:
Weapons cannot cleave him,
nor fire burn him;
water cannot wet him,
nor wind dry him away.

Notice how this mentions examples from 4 of the elements. The true Self is not under the influence of the elements. In fact, the elements rise from it so it’s the other way around.

Not … Continue Reading…