Most of us carry unresolved emotional pain, even if we’ve had fairly uneventful lives. Being born into our family’s unresolved pain will do the job. A child is designed to be wide-open and mirror their environment so they can be successful in it. We learn to walk and talk, but also pick up behaviors and energetic patterns. Soon after, our own past unresolved baggage comes on-line too.
As small children, the pain of adults and our own past can seem like an incomprehensible monster. We don’t have the skills or awareness to process it yet. Although unspoken, it roars away in the background. So we also learn redirection, distraction, suppression, acting out, and other workarounds to mute or avoid pain. Yet such techniques don’t work well and also mute happiness and peace. Many people have almost no awareness of how they feel. Not to mention the toll this takes on our energy and health over time.
But the monster usually isn’t so bad once we grow up. Not pleasant perhaps but once we learn a few techniques for processing our unresolved emotional (energetic) load, we can gradually face the “pain body” and siphon off the charges.
This is much easier if we’re connected to source within, so the first step should be something like a good effortless meditation. With a platform of pure being, even the greatest of charges is just some surface noise from our past.
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Culturing gratitude can be key to help shift the mood up. Make our “tone” a little more conscious. Then it’s much easier to accept and release.
Yet this is not about control. It’s about letting things be as they are. As we learn to allow, the emotional charge can wash over us in a moment. As it has now been seen, it is resolved. We’re left with a neutral memory rather than a trigger button.
Not that we shouldn’t act to change things for the better. I’m describing unraveling the resistance to flow. Meeting resistance requires letting go. Accomplishing in the world requires doing. We could say our past is about letting go while our present is about diving in. This is how we wind down suffering.
The depth of samadhi in meditation will roast the seeds of our unresolved past, leaving us with just the baggage we brought into this life, plus a family carry-on. Healing that gives us the opportunity to leave behind our suffering and step into the light.
Samadhi will also resolve much of the stuff that comes up in daily life. But there will be some bigger ones that life continues to reinforce. Those are the ones that need more personal attention.
Some of the big ones will be multi-layered, like aversion on top of anger on top of fear. But once the core is resolved, the energy that was required to sustain it is released, the pain is gone, the weight lifted, and the relief palpable.
We don’t leave baggage behind by denial or ignoring. It will continue to follow us around like a devoted pet. We leave it behind when we allow it to complete. This isn’t about white-washing over it with a positive attitude. It’s draining the swamp. It can take some courage to face our little monsters. But once we get the hang of it, we can make amazing progress as we peel the onion.
It will take time. And sometimes it can seem endless. But the quality of life upgrades that come with each major clearing make it worthwhile. It will upgrade the clarity of enlightenment when that unfolds too.