Many religious and spiritual traditions describe God with a specific gender. For example, although there are those who worship Mother Mary, Christianity is dominated by a Father God. A lot of modern Hinduism is also directed at male deities like Shiva or forms of Vishnu.
Some modern faiths speak in terms of a Father-Mother God, likening it to a personal choice or a genderless or androgynous divinity.
What this is leaving out is direct experience. When the means to direct experience is lost, traditions devolve into systems of belief. This has happened repeatedly throughout the ages.
However, the divine can be directly known. This first arises in one of 2 ways:
The Impersonal is genderless being, pure existence. Words like She or Father are meaningless although It may also be unsuitable. Hence words like That.
The Personal is our highest ideation of divinity, usually in a form we can relate to. Our personal highest ideal may appear as a masculine or a feminine figure.
Direct experience can happen well before awakening but really flowers in the God Consciousness and further refinement stages if that’s being cultured. In Refined Unity, there is that potential for God Realization.
How our mind might favour a style of divinity may or may not match what later flowers from a deeper reality. This isn’t something driven by the mind. It arises out of our affinity with specific styles of being.
As we go deeper into Brahman, we leave behind form and duality. Gender becomes a near meaningless distinction. Yet when we go still deeper beyond the beyond and discover pure Divinity, there is a tendency to shift back to gender again. Not because of duality but because of how we relate to an effulgent, all-giving Divinity.
In most cases, it seems people are inclined to see pure Divinity as Divine Mother. This is because of the nature of the direct knowing. Also we know the Shakti’s before we know the power. It would not surprise me to find some who relate to the source of the source as masculine though. But usually they’re referring to an expressed aspect of the divine.
Each of us are unique combinations of laws that emphasize a style of experience of the world that fills in yet another puzzle piece in the wholeness of Being.
Don’t try to figure it out in advance. Instead, allow it to unfold as it is.