In Eastern symbology, an upright hand symbolizes truth and the masculine. An open, downward hand symbolizes the feminine and giving.
This is the time of year when giving and receiving are prominent – the giving of gifts, the hosting of events, sharing with friends and family, services, and so forth.
Some of us are very much about “what’s in it for me” – receiving. We’re in a consumer culture that amplifies our sense of entitlement. We may focus on what we haven’t got rather than what we have. And we’re often taught prayer as a way of asking for things.
Others are more identified with giving. Our lives are devoted to others, often at the expense of ourselves. Such people can have a real challenge receiving – be it compliments or support. While we may see giving as superior, they both lead to suffering when driven by identification.
This is ego-based living driven by a story of what is “right” or proper, by shoulds and musts. All we have to do is listen to our mental commentary to see the self-justification, excuses, and drama of the stories at play. How much of that dialogue is real?
In other words, there is an art to giving and an art to receiving. When we’re driven by fear and control, then it revolves around a me. When we are rooted in the deeper reality of who we are, the me is no longer in charge. Then we can give without expectation or burden. And we can receive with grace.
The energy barriers and resistance we once carried fall away, allowing relationships to be less about battles for position and more about open sharing.
This opens the door to our life being about the whole. We give to the whole and the whole supports us in return. There is always enough. Divisions naturally dissolve.
Merry isn’t found in indulgences nor reserved for Christmas.
Ho Ho Ho!