I’ve written before about how the world is structured in layers (koshas). Our experience is the same way. We have thoughts, emotions, sensations, sensory input, and so forth. Certainly these experiences are intertwined but it can be useful to distinguish them for some things.
Another set of distinctions I’ve written about are Empath gifts and Unity.
Unity is a stage of development in consciousness where we recognize the consciousness within is also in the world. We then naturally and progressively experience and recognize everything as myself – in consciousness. This is a process that naturally unfolds through life experiences, so we allow it.
Empath gifts are something about 5% of us are born with. Ideally, we learn to recognize and become skilled with them so they’re not a burden. Unlike consciousness, being skilled means learning to turn them off most of the time.
This is because empath gifts allow us to tune into specific layers in others. But it also means we pick up some of their energetic baggage in the process if we’re not skilled about it. As we’re born with the gifts, we’re challenged by them early on and typically discover crude adaptations to suppress the experience. Like other early learning, this leaves them sub-conscious. Not gaining proper skills, we leave them on much of the time, pick up others junk, and are confused by the internal vacillations that result. Yet the dynamics remain subconscious so the process and thus solutions are unclear.
If you look at a list of empath gifts, you’ll notice some are paired – there is the Intuitive type that picks up information (and others Stuff) and the Oneness type that does a deeper merge (also with Stuff). If you’re an empath, these can be even easier to relate to if you read a description of some of the problems an unskilled gift can bring us.
In this article, I will use a specific personal example. Not to toot my horn but to share how such a gift can affect you until it’s skilled. And what it means with skills.
One of the trickier gifts to discriminate from consciousness is the Spiritual Oneness Empath gift. Sounds extra close to consciousness, yes? But discriminating the two is important if you’re going to get skilled. One you want open, the other mostly off.
Even if someone is not spiritual, if they have this gift and are as usual unskilled with it, they’ll be sub-consciously buffeted by others feelings on the subject. Fear of God, religious guilt, unworthiness, and so forth. “As an unskilled empath with this gift, Gladys will just find that she’s socially awkward with a lot of people — a disheveled social presence resulting from inner information that is not-quite-conscious.”
“By way of analogy, it’s as if Gladys sits in a room on a sunny day. Unbeknownst to her, the blinds are continually being adjusted: Light to dark to dim… with no prior warning.” — Rose Rosetree
Remember – the information is coming in sub-consciously so we’re not noticing it directly. But we’re certainly noticing the effects. And we’ll often blame ourselves or others inappropriately.
If someone also happens to have another empath gift like an Emotional or Intellectual one, that will further complicate the impressions, influencing emotions or thinking that way too.
In my own case, when I was a kid I lacked a clear sense of self and felt buffeted by others, confused by the difference between what I felt of people and what they said and did. Others sense of spiritual connection was often confused and semi-conscious and I added that to my own experience unintentionally.
I discovered some awkward but common work-arounds, like trying to be “invisible” in social groups but this did nothing to stop the process. And it added to the social awkwardness mentioned above. It wasn’t conscious and certainly wasn’t normally off. Discovering who I was in all this other noise became an unnecessarily long process. Meditation helped immensely by shifting me deeper into a more self-referral space but neither it nor the later awakening brought empath skills.
I discovered Rose’s work after the Unity shift so I needed to learn to distinguish the difference between consciousness and the different empath gifts to make them more conscious. Carefully culturing open awareness needed a counterbalance where the empath gifts were concerned. I was surprised to discover how often I “checked” people around me. A childhood safety habit.
One example that made the distinction clear is that when someone wakes up or has a later shift nearby, I usually know and often share something of the experience. At first, I thought this was because it was the same Self waking up. But why then was it only if I was nearby? And why wasn’t everyone awake having a similar experience?
With a more conscious gift, I’m able to be aware of the shift, possibly assist with some of the release, and support them later. But key for my work, I understand the variations in the process better as they’re also part of the experience.
In other words, the gift left me a bit of a mess when young but has helped immensely with my work later on.
Spiritual Oneness Empath gift is very different from consciousness but valuable in understanding the process of consciousness. But unskilled, it turns inner spirituality into a confusing mess.