Periodically, I’ve written here on subjects like conscious relationship and the difference between ego-relating and heart-relating. I’ve also talked about how relationships can show up as a way to work out our energetic resistance, mirroring what we project. Further, I’ve talked about the highest duality, the fundamental masculine-feminine dynamic, the seer and seen, Shiva & Shakti, consciousness and creation.
Recently, I had a new subscriber to my Twitter feed with the handle Naked with Adele. This is a reference to a new book called Can You See My Naked by South African Adele Green.
Her feed has quotes like “Spirit is infused into existence as matter feels itself to be observed and known” and “Relating to each other is awareness experiencing itself.” A related blog post asks: To ask a man to see you naked takes courage, but are the men we ask ready? The reference is not just to physical nakedness but emotional, mental and spiritual.
It’s an interesting article on relationship, but also on the fundamental intimacy of pure being. From the introduction of her book she quotes “Awareness is the ultimate masculine, and matter the ultimate feminine abstract. As they unite for the first time, the first moment of intimacy occurs. Magically, spirit is infused into existence as matter feels itself to be observed and known, and with this reaction the world is complete.”
This describes not just intimate relationship but this highly abstract level of pure being. Plus, the wholeness of Unity when this happens on the broader cosmic scale.
Of course, by masculine and feminine, we’re talking about energy here not just gender. All of us have both energies in various degrees on a spectrum. When framed like the above, it also illustrates the larger arc of spiritual awakening. Not just waking up to who we are within, but bringing that out into the world and integrating the two together.
Adele touches on boundaries in a relationship – it’s worth noting these arise in 2 forms. There is the boundaries where we have resistance, broadly what she calls the shadow. This is where identification has bound us and overshadows who we are. This is what we have to heal and where our partner can mirror and support the process.
And there is the boundaries that define who we are specifically in form and our relationship with the world. What we might call our structure. This is those aspects that don’t fall away when we unravel the bindings of the shadow. The ones we need to express through.
All these boundaries have to be respected by a partner – to support healing and to help accept. If not, then are you ready for her to show herself?
I’ve not read her book but Adele certainly seems to frame relationship from the fundamentals of being. That is rare in any book on any subject.