In a number of spiritual and religious traditions, there is the role of Bhakti or devotion. The path of the heart. Usually, it is presented as a devotion to God or a representative of God such as Jesus. In the east, it may also take the form of the guru.
But there is another form of devotion that is more natural for some people. They feel a greater sense of intimacy and connection with their mate as the beloved.
This is not the emotional love of romance and infatuation. That is temporary and wanes. It also has a quality of attachment or possessiveness to it that is the hallmark of ego. What we’re talking about here is beyond that.
When the Self moves forward and absorbs the heart, the crust falls away and a divine love emerges, flowing out and seeking an object of devotion. We are no longer looking for love but rather seeking a place to give it. With a ‘me’ no longer present to want things, life steps into a path of service.
Seeing the mate as the god/goddess can be a profound spiritual practice. But a few things would be in place for this to happen.
- Resonance – there would be a deep resonance with the other person where they draw out our silence. Spending time with them is like a meditation in itself.
- Acceptance – there would be a mutual acceptance of this process, an engagement. While the other party may not have reached this capacity yet, they need to allow it.
- Respect – there would be a profound respect for the object of attention.
- Love – and of course, there would be the love that can only arise in an open undefended heart. What we may call Divine Love.
We could also list things like trust, support, and devotion, but these are assumed when there is that profound flow.
When this flow is established, it is a love that does not end. Even if the form or relationship falls away, they have served as the gateway to the divine. Once the flow falls back into itself, we connect with the never ending cycle, the flow of love within itself.
I have seen this as the vehicle into Unity, the bridge of love into wholeness. It can also be the path of forever deepening surrender. Just as the great sages speak of their devotion to the master, so too one’s mate is raised to divinity.
A friend of mine suggested this would be one of the natural outgrowths of the massive awakening happening now. Some talk of the guru showing up at the right time. In the same way, one’s beloved can arrive when the true heart beckons. Not because they are needed but because it’s time for the loop to complete.
Relationship columns will never be the same.