Over on Shilpan’s blog, he interviewed Life Coach Tim Brownson. Tim spoke of self-limiting beliefs and the value of tolerance and respect. One commenter suggested tolerance was fine but what about abuse and so forth. Tim spoke of the challenge of seeing our negative construct to which the commenter stood firm. I made a vague comment about deeper unity to which the first commenter asked what the heck I was talking about. I explained with the following, edited for context.
In your comment, you suggest tolerance means anything goes. That is not the case. Tolerance is live and let live but does not deny ethics and law. For example, free speech. One is free to express oneself as long as it does no harm to another. So hate and libel cross a line.
I’m not sure I agree with Tim that Tolerance will bring peace. The issue with tolerance is that it is conditional. We tolerate if. The issue comes down to ego. When the mind sees self as separate, it creates constructs, a story, to explain the world. We call this our belief system. The trouble is, the foundation of that is making self right. The only way to make self right is to make other wrong.
So while we may believe we are tolerant, there is an underlying story that our position is better. Should any conflict arise, tolerance flies out the window.
Our world is a reflection of ourselves inside. This is why we observe some seeing the world as well, others as difficult, others as bad. We will not find peace out there until enough of us find peace in here. And the only way to find inner peace is to step past that story of the mind and discover who we really are. That is where we find peace, the security unthreatened by other, and the happiness we have so long sought in people and things out there.
It’s difficult to “get” as its a different kind of experience but its also very simple once you see it.
When people find that inner connection, they are no longer motivated to fear, hate, violence and all the other effects of inner lack. Their values may be different, but they will no longer be in conflict.
What is a person to do about another suffering? That would depend on the circumstance. Sometimes, just be present for them. Sometimes, stand with them. But we can never do it for them. Each of us must find our own way. It is only for us to support them.
In that place of inner peace and security, the heart is then able to open, unassailable. That is the dawning of true love and compassion, without condition. We are not just able to love, we are love.
As that connection to who we are deepens further, we discover it is the same who as that in all others. There arises a deep intimacy with all life. How then can we be against ourselves?
This is what Jesus meant to love your neighbor AS yourself. The Kingdom of Heaven is within.
This may sound like complete woo woo to you. But this is what is happening now, all over the world. It may not seem it under all the noise, but this is a quiet revolution. A revolution in awareness. This is why people like Shilpan are writing about the soul and being popular. Why Eckhart Tolle is being heard by millions. Why there is now “spiritual cinema”.
One little trick is simple observation of how you respond to things, without blame. In Tim’s response to you, he mentioned how hard it is to see your own negativity. Your response was classic discounting and worst case, a perspective you have chosen and can change with observation. And there is great value in that change. In fact, you can’t change sweat shops by being angry about them. If you understand it deeper, you will see that being against something actually feeds it. What you put your attention on grows stronger. You want to put your attention on solutions, not on what you don’t like.
You are taking a stance that gets in the way of your own happiness and your ability to do something about what concerns you. Look first within, then all else will be added unto you.